One common or repetitive mistake modern day people do is putting words on another. They say things that are not true about a person or that they want to be true, and not as though they suspect it of a person.
Because they are not spiritual or religious, they do not know or understand the impact their words have on people (CP. 1 Samuel 28:20ff). Sometimes you can’t tell whether they want you doing what they’re saying or they just want to test you. What I’m advocating is, this has to stop.