The greatest question of all times is, “can we love as human beings? Is our love as human beings of value or weight? Is our human love solid (substantial) and resilient?” In John 21:15-17, Jesus asked the question that bothered Simon Peter literally. “God You know that we – have to – love You, why then do you ask us whether we love You?” I can hear Peter’s soul uttering these words out to the Maker. “We are human beings, we are clay and everything we are made of is fragile. We are not resilient as You want us to be, and so if we’re not able to love You as You want us, it’s because we’re human.”
There is nothing as liberating as acknowledging or accepting the truth about yourself. When you know yourself i.e. your weaknesses, you are halfway towards solving your problem. My ex-girlfriend always tells me that I did not appreciate the love she had for me and that I did not see her value as a woman or probable wife. Well, I never understood her but I guess it boils down on men’s frail/frivolous love. What I was thinking of, then, before breaking up with her was “is she someone I would want to live with for the next half of my life? Can I live with her personality?” The answer was a big NO and a doubtful mind… so I broke up with her.
When you are willing or determined to live with someone for the rest of your life, it goes beyond mere love or fondness. “When love fades, what are you going to do? When the love is no more, how would you live or continue with the person?” We know that ‘love never fails’ as 1 Corinthians 13:8 proclaims, which means what WE call love in our relationships is not love, it is lust or infatuation or something other.
All the same, the love of human beings is not all-the-way frail as I’m making it seem. It’s just that sometimes, our love is sporadic and divided just as there is ‘divided attention’. When we decide to love, most times something else takes the attention of the love we have devoted to one particular thing. Does this resonate a Scripture in your ear? Luke 16:13 reads
No servant can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.
This is how our human love is like; we cannot cling to one thing. Jesus himself experienced this as a human being. I know this because at one point, he had to choose whether he loved his life more than he loved his Father (Matthew 26:42). Jesus chose the – will of the – Father over his own personal consents; he didn’t brag about his life but submitted himself to God the Father.
So, Jesus is asking “do you love me more than your business or work? Do you love me more than the money you will – or want to – make in your work? And lastly, do you love me even?” These three questions address the three different areas of our love as human beings- love for self, love for money and love for God. Whatever you’re doing right now, I want you to stop and ponder over these questions. How much do you love the Lord Jesus Christ? If you cannot quantify (in percentage) and qualify (in terms), then you don’t love the Lord at all, or that much.
The question of love is a question of humanity, “how much love are you made of”. Human beings were created in the image of God who is love, which means human beings are a replica of love, a symbol of love. If we cannot love, then we do not know or understand ourselves, who we truly are. If we cannot love our friends, family, and strangers, then what are we? God bless you.
P.S.: How can we love LGBTQs as a church or even as individual Christians, because we are required to love? (John 13:34-35) Does the commandment to love include unbelievers or sinners? Share your thoughts